Abuse comes with many warning signs: blame for everything that goes wrong, the subtle denial of their wrongdoings in everyday conversations, and the clenched jaw when you ask for a favor. Many of these you think are just personality quirks, or that if you could just do something right for once that things would be better.
Warnings come from all directions. Friends, family, co-workers ask how you’re doing with a look of concern. Social workers go over mediation tactics once again when you say that the arguing has increased. You get your prescription for your antidepressants and return to retreating inward. On your drive home, you pass another sign.